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Two paintings by Vincent Van Gogh both painted in 1890–“Almond Branches in Bloom” and “At Eternity’s Gate”. Which one makes you happy?!

Ever notice how being around negative people — a.k.a. “psychic vampires” — can bring you down? We’ve all experienced a colleague who comes to the water cooler carrying the bad news about who got fired recently, or dumps all the venom she feels for the boss on you. Being around negativity can really bring us down.

The good news? It’s now been scientifically proven that happiness is contagious. That’s right: Research compiled by the Harvard Medical School and the University of California at San Diego proves that our moods are directly affected by the people we hang out with, and even by the people they hang out with. The study demonstrated that our social networks (family, friends, neighbors, professional colleagues) influence us greatly whether we realize it or not.

Like a virus, happiness can spread from person to person with direct contact. The flip side, of course, is that sadness and negativity spread in the same manner. However, the research proved that sorrow did not spread as efficiently and completely as happiness did, which is good reason to be cheerful (and pass it on).

How can you do that if you’re unhappy with your life and career? First, rule out clinical depression.

If you’re feeling sad, overwhelmed, disinterested in anything, sleeping too much or not sleeping at all, these symptoms indicate that a visit to your doctor is in order. If you simply hate where you work, there is something you can do; you can choose happiness. That’s right: Happiness is a choice. We can set up healthy boundaries, adopt an infectious upbeat attitude, and work toward changing our career direction to match our goals.

• Surround yourself with happy people. Avoid the office gossip and other toxic people in your life. Spend more time with happy people that you know.

• Pump up your endorphins. Exercise releases happy hormones in your brain. If you’re a couch potato or a desk jockey, no wonder you’re feeling blue. Leave your desk and go for a walk around the block on your break if you can’t get to the gym.

• Stay hydrated. Along with proper diet and nutrition, remember to drink plenty of water. Without it, we get sluggish, and happy people are energetic ones.

• Count sheep. Getting a good night’s sleep is half the battle. With so many of us suffering from sleep disorders, no wonder we’re so grumpy. Lack of sleep causes irritability and lack of focus on the job. If you’re having problems sleeping consult a physician.

• Get clear on what is missing from your current employment and take steps to get what you need. Make lists of the pros and cons of staying with this gig or leaving. Take inventory of what you like about your job and what you don’t. Write down what would make you happier with this job or the next one.

• Take control of your situation. One of the reasons for unhappiness is that we feel we have no control over our situation. But whose life are we living? Speak up. You may not be able to get the boss to agree to everything on your wish list, but with some negotiation you may get some of what you want, you just have to risk asking for it.

Beware: Choosing happiness is contagious. When you choose happiness, you will be influencing others around you to get happy, too. When that happens, you may actually discover that you like where you are after all.


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SETTING INTENTIONS- 5 Tips on how to start your day like a rockstar

I just discovered this wonderful post on the Malavika Blog. She gives 5 terrific tips on setting intentions for your day. I couldn’t have done a better job–go see:

How to start your day like a rockstar.

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Fortunate Saint #116 (c) Katy Allgeyer

Announcing the launch of “Fortunate Saints”. Original modern spiritual icon paintings with Chinese fortune cookie sayings juxtaposed next to Italian prayer cards on richly painted miniature canvases. Priced from $100 and up. The 5″ square ones are unframed with painted sides and the slightly larger ones are framed in gorgeous gilt and wood frames, each one of a kind. Fortunate Saints make great gifts for any occasion, with some having specific messages perfect for making amends, expectant mothers, graduates, and prosperity. Place them in your Wisdom & Knowledge area or Wealth area and see what happens!

Fortunate Saint #116 is on eBay right now!


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In 2003, my art installation “WALL OF LOVE: The Art of Feng Shui” was exhibited first in Los Angeles and then in Berlin, Germany as part of the KunstKreuz Love & Peace Festival. The installation consisted of 99 individually painted Love Power Hearts. Each of the heart paintings was designed to activate feng shui through use of color, symbol, and a powerful mantra for peace that was ritually imparted on each piece after the entire 99 were painted. 99 is also a particularly auspicious number.

SIGNED PRINT REPRODUCTIONS OF INDIVIDUAL “LOVE POWER HEARTS” ARE AVAILABLE FOR $18 (includes S & H). Email katyallgeyer at mac.com for more info.

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Can a feng shui consultation work if the feng shui practitioner does not actually visit the location in person? That all depends on the feng shui practitioner. Feng Shui By Fishgirl has successfully analyzed numerous homes and businesses without actually being there. If you want to have an accurate feng shui reading of your space you no longer need to be in the same city as I am.

Long distance feng shui is only as accurate as the person guiding you through the process. With Feng Shui By Fishgirl, you will receive complete instructions on what I need to get the job done right. You will also have my complete support as questions come up long after you’ve received your analysis report.

Contact me for more details and read below what one person had to say about their recent off-site remote consultation from Feng Shui By Fishgirl:

“I had always been very curious about Feng Shui, and had decided that when we bought our own home, I would have a professional assess the layout and flow. When we finally became homeowners a few months ago, I had a terrible time trying to find someone who had enough experience to earn my trust, and most of the consultants used a lot of traditional cures that would not work with our home without seeming very obvious. I serendipitously found Katy’s blog one day, and was hooked- she seemed to go to the core of the philosophy, using and understanding what flow truly was, and explained everything in such a wonderful way that it would not alienate a layman. I contacted her for a consultation, but since I was not in her local area, we decided to go for a long-distance consultation. I was a little hesitant at first, because I thought that being IN the home would be important to get a sense of the energy, but she put all my fears to rest. After receiving some materials from me, she promptly (really, within 2-3 days) send back a written report, with notes on our floor plan. The written report was VERY comprehensive, and I saw that she really “got” the space. Her recommendations were not just “cures”, but aesthetically improved our space, and just made it feel right. The changes we have begun to make have certainly given us results- let me elaborate on one particular case. My husband and I both work for a non-profit company. I work part time, and he is a more senior level employee. In this economy, I received a 15% raise after making changes to our wealth area. My husband also received an unexpected raise AND bonus!
Katy is a wonderful person and a thorough professional. She has always answered my questions promptly, and without any reservations. She is truly amazing and I cannot recommend her services highly enough.”
-SK, Texas

What are YOU waiting for? Contact katyallgeyer@mac.com today!

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Lessons for Professionalism

Tuesday, November 3rd — 11:45 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.
Pearson Legacy Gallery, 13 Dow Road, Deer Isle — (207) 348-2535

“Stimulating Creativity Through Feng Shui”
with Katy Allgeyer

Have you ever jumped out of bed with a great idea for a new project, gulped down breakfast, fed the cats, and raced to your studio only to suddenly feel inhibited and not so enthusiastic anymore? Something to do with the environment. Or, (different scenario) maybe you’ve just moved and have the unusual opportunity to make a brand new studio but you want it to be “just right” so that you can do your work seamlessly – and yet, you are stymied about how to do that so that it indeed fits you perfectly.

In order to create freely, you need an environment that will support your full potential. Katy Allgeyer will give a presentation on helping artists create their studio spaces to enhance rather than dampen creativity. She will cover a general overview of the principles of Feng Shui and the Bagua Map, removing elements that block creativity, and personal ways to let creativity flow naturally and without stress.

Katy Allgeyer is a recognized Feng Shui master with over twenty years experience which she blends with her highly developed intuitive ability, metaphysical shamanic healing methods, and her formal art and design training that make her uniquely qualified to help people realign their environments to support their full potential. She became, after graduation from the Fashion Institute of Technology in NYC, a leading fashion designer for Liz Claiborne and her travels for that company gave her a rather global outlook. She now has a studio and gallery in Stonington and continues her painting in High Point, NC during the winter months producing work that is exhibited nationally. She invites you to visit her Feng Shui by Fishgirl blog (http://fengshuibyfishgirl.com) and also her artist’s website, http://www.katyallgeyer.com for more insight into her background.

Lecture fee: $10 at the door. Bring a lunch – coffee, tea and cookies will be provided. For more information and/or to let Carolyn Hecker know if you are planning to attend (don’t want to run out of cookies), call 348-2535 or email cahecker@midmaine.com or leave a message at the Gallery at 348-6848.

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Choosing holiday gifts to co-workers, vendors, clients, and employers shouldn’t become another burden to add to your stressful workload. Creating good chi (energy) through proper use of feng shui techniques is beneficial anytime and any place. During the holidays, when carolers incite us to “be of good cheer”, being of good chi is even better! Why not spread the good chi around? Here’s a list of holiday gifts that fill the niche of being cool things to receive, and, good for the recipient’s feng shui. (And because you are giving with good intentions, your own feng shui will also benefit.)

RED CANDLES The color red activates and stimulates. Red candles are available in abundance during the holiday season and can be found at Target or even Trader Joe’s at prices that won’t break your bank. Accompany a large red candle with a beautiful candle holder and a hand written note advising your recipient to light it in their Wealth, Fame, or Relationship areas of their bagua for good feng shui results. Those areas can be found at the upper left, middle, and right hand sides of any space you’re facing toward.

INCENSE Readily available at retailers everywhere, you might find a more sophisticated selection at yoga center gift shops. Look for classic scents such as jasmine, ginger, green tea, and patchouli. This gift will lift your hipness quotient quite a bit, too.

MOBILES Lightweight paper mobiles can be found in museum gift shops. A butterfly mobile is a good example that works for kids and grownups rooms. In Chinatown, one can find cocktail parasol mobiles at just about any shop. Mobiles function as art and as feng shui tools to add movement, stimulating good chi and opportunity, and creativity.

MONEY Wherever it’s appropriate, money is a definite chi booster. If it’s placed in a Red Pocket (a Chinese feng shui red envelope that you can find at any shop in Chinatown), it doubles the good fortune of both giver and receiver. The bright red envelopes with golden characters and artwork embossed on them make receiving that end-of-year bonus all the more fun.

FENG SHUI CONSULTATION Feng Shui By Fishgirl is available to analyze your feng shui no matter what your location. Ask for the “Office Special” if you’d like to have your office done (or gift someone else).

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Photo from Wiki.

Photo from Wiki.

Einsteinwas famous for taking naps and the solution to his Theory of Relativity came to him while he was dreaming. We may not all be geniuses, but, we just might discover the solution to our own problems while we are focused on taking a hike instead. Slowing down and making yourself a priority is not being lazy: it’s a step towards being a successful, grounded, and productive professional. Learning how to set healthy boundaries is key.


1) Put yourself at the top of your own to-do list. If you are constantly expending energy and not adding any fuel to your tank, sooner or later you’ll run out of gas. You’ll have nothing to give to your significant other or your children and you’ll certainly have nothing to give to your career. Taking care of YOU is your top priority!

2) Saying “no” to others is saying “yes” to yourself. What does saying no mean? Don’t always be available to take on the tough assignments or work overtime on the holidays. Don’t automatically reach for the doughnuts just because someone brought them in to work and you don’t want to hurt their feelings. Don’t come into work when you have a contagious cold that others will catch. Caring for yourself, you will have more to give to others.

3) Protect your ch’i (energy). Don’t take on other people’s negativity. People tend to dump their problems and vent their worries on others who allow them to do it. We end up feeling drained while they walk away feeling lighter for unburdening their load on us. Spreading harmful gossip is another energy zapper. Focus on work and taking care of yourself and avoid all energy vampires.

4) Turn on your answering machine. There, I said it. I give you permission to not answer your phone. Whether at work or at home, you have the power to slow down your responses. You might want to let people know–or not–that during the hours of this and that you are not available. Think of how much easier to get your work done if you have a solid chunk of uninterrupted time? You’ll sleep better at home if you stop accepting phone calls from friends or colleagues at least two hours before your bedtime.

4) Leave work at work. It’s a good idea to decompress from the stress at work before you begin interacting with your family and friends. Develop some little routine that becomes your own individual “ritual” to help you make the transition from work life to personal life. Your ritual will be your own. The most important thing is to allow yourself at least 20 to 30 minutes at the end of work to let go of the corporate dramas and get your mind back in touch with your life and what’s important to you. After all, you’re not only a professional. You’re a member of a family,and, you have other interests besides what you do for a living.
Don’t you??!

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“Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll still get run over if you just sit there.” ~ Will Rogers

Move Over, Oprah
Whether you are sitting on the subway on your way to work, or sitting on the beach during your summer vacation, chances are you are looking for a good book to read (after you’ve finished reading your Feng Shui By Fishgirl Blog, of course!). I can’t count the number of times I’ve been asked what Feng Shui books I would recommend. Much like Oprah and her Book Club, I have my personal favorites which are subject to my whim (and whimsy).

So here it is: Fishgirl’s summer reading book list. I’ve limited the list to nine, instead of the usual ‘top ten’, because nine represents a very auspicious number within the context of Feng Shui. They are not given in order of preference, just in order of there being something for everybody and reflect my interests in things other than Feng Shui (Psychology, Dreaming, Fiction, Nonfiction, Poetry…so many books, so little time!).

Fishgirl’s Book List

[1] The Western Guide to Feng Shui
Terah Kathryn Collins; Hay House Inc., paperback.

This slim paperback is the book I highly recommend to people wanting a simple overview of Black Hat Sect Feng Shui. The writing is clear and the information is not overwhelming to the lay person. No book should or can be substituted for the knowledge, years of training and experience of a Feng Shui practitioner.That being said, this book helps you to understand what your Feng Shui consultant suggested you do.

[2] Rogue’s Gallery, Michael Gross, hardcover.

This is a must read account of the movers and shakers (he calls them moguls) behind the scenes at New York’s Metropolitan Museum of Art. As with “740 Park”, “Model”, “Ralph”, and other tomes he’s written, Gross unearths all the skeletons and reveals a fascinating cast of characters who live among us in the upper echelons of society. Great beach read!

[3]Conscious Dreaming; A spiritual path for everyday life Robert Moss, Three Rivers Press, paperback.

What could be a more fascinating book to daydream on the beach by? Robert Moss’s techniques for dreaming bring new meaning and richness to everyday life. You’ll become aware of synchronicity that ties together waking and dreaming worlds. Before I read this book, my dreams did not make any sense, especially since they did not conform to any of the explanations found in the myriad of “dream dictionaries” on the market. Now, not only do I understand my dreams, I am frequently given guidance to Feng Shui situations for myself and clients through dreams.

[4] The Alchemist, A fable about following your dream
Paul Coelho, Harper Flamingo Publishers, available in illustrated hard cover version or plain paperback.

Speaking of synchronicity and dreaming, this piece of timeless fiction is a delight to read. Like Ste Exupery’s “The Little Prince”, it may at first glance be mistaken for a children’s book. Although older children will probably enjoy the story, too, it is a magical tale for adults in need of some inspiration. I LOVE this book! Thank you to my nephew and his lovely bride for introducing me to this book (they quoted a passage from it in their wedding ceremony).

[5] Dreams Are Letters From the Soul, Connie Kaplan, paperback.

This book opened up another way of dreaming for me. Reading Connie’s personal journey–and later being part of her dream circle in Santa Monica and now online at www.turtledreamers.com–has highly influenced my own spiritual path.

[6]When The Drummers Were Women, A spiritual history of rhythm Layne Redmond, Three Rivers Press, paperback.

A dear friend gave me this book for my birthday. Although painstakingly researched, what might have become rather dry material in less skillful hands is presented in a very enjoyable way with lots of illustrations to back up the facts. Layne Redmond, a huge musical talent as well as author, brings out information about the historical legacy of women that has been suppressed for eons by the patriarchal clergy, politicians, and sadly, even archeologists. Once upon a time, almost all drumming was done by women…

[7] Mutant Message Down Under Marlo Morgan, Harper Perennial, paperback.

This book has had people wondering ever since it came out over ten years ago: is it true or is it fiction? It’s an incredible adventure story either way and has a lot of wisdom and insight to impart. The story is about a middle aged woman who is invited to join an aboriginal tribe on a “walkabout” in the Australian outback. This book tends to want to go on a walkabout itself- it somehow always walks off my bookshelf with someone who sees it there and I’ve had to replace it four times. I suggest reading it on the beach or back porch, preferably with a haunting didjireedo CD playing in the background.

[8]House as a Mirror of Self; Exploring the deeper meaning of home Clare Cooper Marcus , Conari Press, paperback.

Clare Cooper Marcus has based this book on over a decade of personal and professional research into how we feel about home and why we feel the way we do. Her expertise is founded on psychology and the viewpoint of this book is to help us understand how early emotional experiences affects our decisions about where and how we live as adults. This is a must read for every Feng Shui practitioner, as well as fascinating reading for anyone trying to find their own personal style. Filled with illustrations and individual case studies. A tad laborious in the beginning, stick with it and you will be glad you did.

[9] The Enlightened Heart, An anthology of sacred poetry Edited by Stephen Mitchell, Harper & Row, hardcover.

A wonderful selection of sacred texts from all religious beliefs. Many of these poems serve equally well as love songs. Guaranteed to pull at your heartstrings…your enlightened heartstrings, that is!

What books are on YOUR summer reading list? Do tell!

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Good feng shui is about bringing balance and harmony to our living and working spaces. When ch’i (energy) is in positive alignment, we feel more relaxed. Feng shui is an ancient Chinese practice that is based on many common sense principles. For example, we don’t usually feel comfortable working with our backs to a door because it leaves us vulnerable to being startled by people sneaking up on us. One feng shui solution for this is to place a mirror so we always know who is entering the room behind us.

Remove the clutter, remove the stress. The easiest feng shui tip to begin now is to get organized. At work, keeping your work area tidy and clean will keep you feeling on top of your game, and, make it easier for your co-workers to stand in for you while you are on vacation or a business trip. A well kept locker allows you to get your gear quickly and get home faster when your shift is over. Once you’re home, if you’ve kept your space clutter free there, too, you’ll find more time to unwind.

Negative vibes. Get rid of dead plants and flowers, stale food, broken clocks or other faulty equipment (have it repaired or replaced), old files that are no longer needed, pens and markers that are dried up, etc. When things are in good working order, people feel happy at work.

Feed your soul. Bring a touch of beauty to your life to inspire your spirit. Don’t just save flowers for special occasions. Bring a bud vase to your desk and keep a fresh cut red rose or other favorite flower in it. Tape a piece of art or a favorite photo or motivational poem to the inside door of your locker.

Under cover. Boring career wear got you down? Nobody needs to know what you got going on underneath ‘em, do they?! Guys: get those hot red boxer shorts. Girls: lavish yourself with lace and satin. Knowing you’re looking your sexy best can give you a real energy boost (not to mention a secret smile) all day long.

Treat yourself. Find time to get your hair and nails done. Treat yourself to a professional massage every now and then. Read a novel, shoot hoops, spend time doing something just for you at least 20 minutes per day. And post here to tell me how YOU relax!

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