Tag Archives: relationships

PILLOW TALK

img_26271

     The lights are low, you’ve got chocolates and/or ice cream by your side, and you’re naked and snuggled under the satin sheets. Soft music is playing, too. I bet I know where you think this is leading! But unfortunately, it’s not what you think. Instead of your lover by your side enjoying in this beautiful bedroom scenario, many of you have a hot-bottomed laptop. Busted! You’re working overtime and bringing your business to your bedroom. This is a feng shui no-no for many reasons.

    Unless your ultimate fantasy is-how should I put this?– work-related, kindling romance in your bedroom will be that much more difficult if it has the atmosphere of an office cubbyhole instead of a love shack. Move the computers and desk to another area of the home. Replace with plenty of candles and flowers.

    Your bedroom should be a place of tranquility. To be your best at work, you need a good night’s rest. Computers and other electronic equipment (lamps, radios, alarm clocks, phones, cell phones, stereos, electric blankets, printers, TV’s, treadmills, to name a few) create stimulating chi (energy) that keeps your mind buzzing and may prevent you from getting your Z’s. Take inventory of how many electrical appliances and gadgets you’re keeping in your sleeping chamber. Pare it down to 2-3 (or less). Notice the difference in your quality of sleep and how much more refreshed you’ll feel.

    Some of you may have your significant other by your side as one or both of you tap-tap-tap on your individual keyboards. Relationships suffer if we bring work home and convert the bed into a desktop. When our primary relationship goes stale, we often lack the vitality we need in the working world. Separating the office from the boudoir is one of the keys to marital bliss. Make a pact to keep work out of your bedroom.

    Finally, spiff up your bedroom so it looks and feels like a peaceful retreat. Soothing colors, quality bedding, pretty linens, a painting on the wall opposite your bed to wake up to—treat yourself (to a good night’s sleep).

Advertisements

2 Comments

Filed under Feng Shui, Feng Shui Home, Love & Relationship

UNDER THE BED

Dead bodies should NOT be stored under your bed.

Dead bodies should NOT be stored under your bed.

Feng shui is about Qi/chi (energy) being able to flow and circulate freely. Storing anything under your bed blocks this process. But if you’re limited in space, underbed storage may be necessary. What to do? Feng Shui By Fishgirl recommends your optimum feng shui is to keep the underside of your bed clean and clutterfree. But if you must store something there…..

DO store soft items (ie: more bedding, linens, comforters, soft clothing) in organized containers or drawer systems under your bed.

DON’T store electrical items and appliances, negatively charged items (weapons, for example), sharp items, things that don’t belong in bedrooms, items associated with past love relationships (photo albums of exes).

What’s under your bed? Do tell!

3 Comments

Filed under Feng Shui, Feng Shui Home, Getting Organized, Love & Relationship, Qi

FINDING GREEN LOVE

The Honeymooners   (c) Katy Allgeyer

The Honeymooners (c) Katy Allgeyer

Are you tired of dating people who haven’t a clue what tofu is? Does the idea of dating someone who doesn’t recycle make you cringe? Having important social issues in common can be like finding a needle in a haystack. EcoDater is an eco-friendly online green dating and social networking community for single men and women who engage in a natural, holistic lifestyle. Their tagline is “love, naturally”.

Members include environmentalists, vegans and vegetarians, organic farmers, outdoor enthusiasts, eco travelers, holistic doctors, herbalists and many other practitioners of green living. The EcoDater website is so niche specific, it takes all the guesswork out of where to go to meet like-minded individuals.

I spoke with Ryel Kestano, EcoDater’s founder and owner. She told me, ”EcoDater is a niche dating and networking site aimed specifically at people who identify themselves as eco-friendly. It is a much smaller community than that of Match.com or eHarmony but all EcoDater members already have something important in common – a principled desire to live closer to nature. This shared philosophy makes it a lot easier for our members to contact each other in confidence, since finding an eco-friendly partner is among the most important goals of our members. EcoDater offers two levels of membership – a basic free membership and an enhanced premium membership. A portion of all revenues is donated to green charitable organizations.”

The acclaimed EcoDater blog is updated regularly by EcoDater editors and offers readers a comprehensive array of interesting and relevant posts. You can go read the article Feng Shui By Fishgirl contributed about Using Feng Shui To Create Sustainable Love. In that article, I talk about how to enhance your bedroom as well as what outdoor green activities will create memories and sustainable bonds for love to grow, naturally. Do check out EcoDater–it’s not like the one-size-fits-all services you may have already tried.

Do you have any online dating success stories to share? Please comment!

Leave a comment

Filed under Feng Shui, Fun, Love & Relationship

RECIPE FOR HEALING A BROKEN HEART

Love Puzzle   (c) Katy Allgeyer

Love Puzzle (c) Katy Allgeyer

I recently read the “Heartbroken OW” blog and decided I needed to post my recipe for healing a broken heart today.

You’ve heard the expression “love sickness”? The term goes back a long way and many greater writers than I (Shakespeare comes to mind) have covered the symptoms brilliantly. It hits most of us at some stage of life and it can be difficult to shake it off. People can carry the attachment to the wrong person for years and years. It can be crippling to men or women who never seem to be available emotionally when they finally meet a potential new lover.

Some feng shui tips to help you detach (and you MUST detach if you are ever going to make room for a new, healthy lover):

*Take inventory of any gifts he/she gave you, photos of your lover or the two of you together, letters, emails, etc and eliminate them from your life. You can do this by tossing them in the garbage, OR you can ritualize it by burning them in a fireplace or bonfire. Say out loud as you let go of these items that remind you constantly of your lover/the affair: “I let go of (lover’s name) with love as I no longer need (his name) or any reminder of (lover’s name) in my life. I banish all negative energy and make space for a new healthy love to come into my life.”

*Sell off engagement rings or valuables and give the money to charity or to your parents.

* If you have sheets and bedding that you used together with your ex, eliminate them—-give to a pet shelter. They reuse them for pets. Buy a new set. Of course, ultimately if you could afford it, would be a good idea to also get rid of the mattress but if not possible financially you can just smudge your bed real good (see below).

* Smudge yourself and your home with sage or with incense. Waft it all around the space and say “I banish all energy that does not belong to me (and if you have a pet, include them as their energy does belong with you) and I reclaim my space for me (and my pet)!” You will want to do this throughout your home and repeat it nine days in a row and once a week or once a month thereafter. Notice how you feel when all his/her energy is cleared away.

*You may have to cut the invisible cord that is attached to your solar plexus (your energy lines to him/her and his/hers to yours). To do this, you’ll want to consciously be willing to let go, and say out loud that you are cutting all cords to (his or her name) and make a scissoring motion over your middle torso with your hands or with a real scissors, envisioning all cords being cut. They may reattach so you may have to repeat this process several times over a span of time in order for you to be clear of your ex.

*Now this part is difficult but I’ve been there myself and I know you can do it when you are ready: do NOT answer his/her calls, emails, letters etc. Put a block on his/her emails (or have them auto dumped into your trash folder so you don’t even know when he/she has contacted you), block him/her from your facebook etc pages, just DETACH, DISENGAGE, MOVE ON.

*And do not initiate contact with the exlover either. RESIST the urge to reach out when something great happens in your life or sharing when someone in your life dies or calling to tell your ex that you saw so & so and they said to say hi. Etc, etc. etc. Do not look for a reason to make contact.

*Get a pet if you don’t have one. Animals love us unconditionally. There is no better remedy for loneliness and depression than a dog or cat snuggling next to you. Rescue a pet today!

Time does give you new perspective. The recipe above is if you truly want to heal your broken heart and move on. Be gentle with yourself and take it one step at a time. Good luck!

11 Comments

Filed under Healing Energy, Love & Relationship, Qi, Self Help

WATER WORKS: Feng Shui Networking Methods To Attract Opportunities

Stock photo from tommyimages.com

Stock photo from tommyimages.com


Competition for available jobs has never been fiercer. We all need that extra somethin’-somethin’ to set us apart from the crowd. Feng Shui might give you that extra edge.These Feng Shui techniques bring movement (water energy) into your life, improving your chances in the working world. The idea is to cast your net wide into the sea of
humanity.

MOVING WATER METHOD I :
Make a point of contacting at least one different person a day for 27 days in a row. They should be someone you know from your past that you’ve had no contact with for at least six months. Think former employers and colleagues, classmates, teachers, former clients…anyone, even relatives that you’ve lost touch with counts!

The contact can be by phone, e-mail or letter. The point is to reach out to that person in an upbeat way without expectation or requesting any favors. Avoid all negative conversation or complaints.If an opportunity–social or business–should come as a result of your communication, do not turn it down. (IE: if the person invites you to her son’s bar mitzvah, go! If a job is being offered, go on the interview even if you decide later on not to take the position).

TIP: Three people per day in 27 days increases your odds!

MOVING WATER METHOD II :
Instead of contacting people you know, this time you must make a point of meeting (face 2 face) nine new people each day for nine consecutive days. Names must be exchanged in order to fulfill the
requirement. Even better, exchange business cards and phone numbers if possible. People you meet on line at the grocery count. So does your postal worker if you’ve never asked him his name.

For both methods, it’s important to note that if you miss a day, you need to start all over again. It takes a lot of courage to practice these two Feng Shui techniques. You’re well on your way to creating a network of opportunity as well as developing your personal confidence and charisma. Create your own luck and you’ll have the Feng Shui By Fishgirl advantage!

(Have you tried this method? Share your results!)

1 Comment

Filed under Creativity & Future Projects, Feng Shui, Feng Shui Office, Love & Relationship

FITBUFF BLOG CARNIVAL=Good Stuff!

monday-blog-carnivals Be sure to check out the FITBUFF blog where Feng Shui By Fishgirl is included in the Blog Carnival section under “Dating” tips. There are many hot tips for health (anti-aging skin care for body by Farid Mostamand), exercising (why you want to start yoga today by Kara-Leah Grant), and how to stay positive (written by Jeremy Ulmer) plus many more. Good stuff!

Leave a comment

Filed under Blog Carnival, Feng Shui, Health & Fitness, Love & Relationship, Reading, Self Help