Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver in happier days.
I have always admired Maria Shriver and at the same time always wondered what the attraction was between her and Arnold Schwarzenegger. To me the differences in their backgrounds and especially their political beliefs seemed like too great a gap to bridge. Now the media hounds are feasting on the sordid scandal that surrounds the dissolution of their 25 year marriage. My heart goes out to Maria and I am glad to see that she has friends like Oprah who will help her through this heartbreak. The fact that your partner is cheating on you is devastating. The fact that your partner is cheating without using a condom is unforgivable.
When a partner cheats on you it turns your world upside down. The deception and betrayal shock you first and then numb you. It turns everything you believed to be true into a lie that shakes your foundation. It steals your confidence in yourself, your ability to trust, your judgement of good character…nothing seems real anymore. Arnold Schwarzenegger not only hurt his wife by cheating, he created a situation that put her health in jeopardy (unprotected sex has many consequences besides conceiving a child– STD’s are more common than ever and can lead to cancer, infertility, and AIDS) and put the well being of his 4 children with Maria in danger as well. I don’t think Arnold–and other cheaters–get this, nor do they care. It requires complete narcissism to cheat. Selfishness to the max. Because an honorable person would do the right thing: get out of one relationship before getting into another one. Arnold wasn’t thinking of anyone else but Arnold.
New reports are revealing that his mistress/housekeeper was pregnant at the same time as Maria was with their last child together. Just think about your own kids and how they would handle this situation at school. And think about the so-called “love child” who is an innocent victim in all of this. What a shock to learn your mother is a ho?!
You've got a friend: Oprah Winfrey with Maria Shriver during taping of her upcoming final episode.
Maria Shriver will survive. She is a Kennedy, after all. And she has some powerful women friends like Oprah Winfrey who has already offered her a show on her new OWN television network. It’s no secret that Maria gave up her own career ambitions to help her husband run successfully for office as the Governor of California. Without her support it is doubtful that he would have won the election since even then he was under scrutiny with charges that he had groped several women. Maria stood by her man. I can’t help but thinking of a quote I read recently attributed to Tyra Banks: “Never dull your shine for someone else.” It would seem that Maria has learned that lesson the hard way. Feng Shui By Fishgirl hopes Maria Shriver will be smiling from her authentic self real soon. Life is too short and too precious to waste on jerks like Arnold.
TIPS FOR MOVING ON AFTER SOMEONE CHEATS ON YOU:
* Read the Feng Shui By Fishgirl recipe for healing a broken heart.
* Spend time with good friends who will remind you that you are lovable.
* Take a vacation.
* Get a complete physical examination asap.
* Move on! Get on with your life as soon as you can. It can only get better.
Christina Haag has written a memoir (see my review here) about her 5 year romance with John F.Kennedy, Jr. and ‘Come to the Edge‘ is currently on the NY Times Bestseller list. My path crossed with Christina’s a handful of times in Los Angeles in the early 90’s when we attended the same yoga classes in Larchmont and occasionally our circles of friends overlapped. I realize now that I met Christina quite soon after her breakup with John; her natural warmth was concealed under an actress’s fragile veneer of aloofness, self-protection in the aftermath of the media frenzy that accompanies celebrity breakups. ‘Come to the Edge’ is a tender love story told with sentimentality and innocence. The pain is gone and the memories are happy ones. The author writes that she did fall in love again (more than once) since John. But she never married. And the book is mostly about her time with him. She still dreams about him. It would seem that this relationship is still very much on her mind but perhaps the book provides a catharsis that will bring some closure for her two decades later.
If you’re one of my clients or a longtime reader of Feng Shui By Fishgirl, you already know that the path to finding new love requires a clearing out and letting go of past love so you can move on. It takes as long as it takes. Sometimes we are paralyzed by the thought of falling in love because we might get our hearts broken again. Is it worth it? For many the answer is no. Or a half-hearted yes. Taking the plunge takes courage. Courage to let go of the past. Courage to honor your story at the same time you move on. Writing in a journal can bepart of the recipe for healing a broken heart. Exploring your dreams in a dream circle with others or studying with Connie Kaplan or Robert Moss can be of great benefit. Reading the stories of others can also help–‘Come to the Edge’ is a book that many women will relate to (even if we’re not involved with a celebrity). It’s a fun, quick read for a rainy afternoon.
If you’re new to the Feng Shui By Fishgirl blog you may find there’s so much information here you just don’t have time to pore through it all. So, I’ve compiled links to some of the most popular blog posts I’ve written this year to make it easier for you to get a taste of feng shui. Start with my Top 10 Tips and if you like what you’ve read, keep on exploring the links below. What’s your favorite Feng Shui By Fishgirl post?
Seems like wallpaper is making a comeback. Check out “Off the Wall Paper” for some very cool vintage wallpaper sources. You may be inspired to redo your master bedroom using some of that vintage paper or make simple changes the way Marni did when she won my “Simple Solutions: Master Bedroom Makeover” last spring. You might be worried about mismatched nightstands in that bedroom but they aren’t always negative feng shui.
Some people are looking to get more interest in their master bedrooms but can’t get over their broken hearts. “Recipe for Healing a Broken Heart” is a great place to begin on this site if you can’t seem to move on. Try the solutions offered and see if feng shui doesn’t help you heal as well as attract a new improved mate! You can also take part in Personal Feng Shui Treasure Mapping to send the right signals out to the universe about what your heart desires.
This heat wave coast to coast has many of us yearning for winter. Next best thing is some winter inspired art work and cool all white interiors. And speaking of artwork, how about organizing your art studio to the principles of feng shui?
One of my most popular posts is about the supernatural phenomenon of breaking glass. This post guaranteed to send chills down your spine (great for a hot summer day!).
I’m posting this from beautiful Charleston, SC. We’re here to celebrate the wedding of a friend’s daughter. What a romantic city! You couldn’t get much better weather, too. All this love stuff got me thinking about some of the previous feng shui advice I’ve given for Love & Relationship. It seemed like a perfect time to revisit these links…
If you’ve been in love before and you can’t seem to find a new partner, you may want to find out if your ex is blocking you from finding a new love. This happens when we hold on too long to “love clutter”. If you’ve been burned a few times you might benefit from these steps on overcoming the fear factor so you can jump back into the dating game. But first, be gentle with yourself. Getting over a past love can take time. Be sure to try the Feng Shui By Fishgirl recipe for healing a broken heart and remember, even celebrities like Sandra Bullock can benefit from solid feng shui advice.
You might already be thinking about merging your households and wondering what the feng shui impact of moving in together will be. Pay special attention to the details of your bedroom where most of the pillow talk will take place in your love relationship. When choosing heart art for your Love area, remember that all hearts are not created equal but my Love Power Hearts are specifically designed to help boost your love power and I still have some available. They make wonderful wedding gifts, by the way!