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ACTIVATE YOUR LOVE

As a feng shui consultant, I appreciate the symbols of love that Valentine’s Day surrounds us with. Hearts, hearts, and more hearts! I’d like to encourage my readers to remember that LOVE is essential to all beings on this planet. Be kind to your neighbors and your neighbors’ pets. Cherish your mom and your sister as much as your spouse. Valentine’s Day does not have to be for couples only. Spread loving kindness wherever you go and it will come back to you multiplied.

Check out this one-of-a-kind art piece necklace I created for one very lucky person. There will never be another one like it. Made from rare Venetian glass beads, Tibetan stone dZi beads, black glass and sandalwood Buddhist mala beads, and one vintage blue resin heart with scorpion embedded within:  Available at ArtBarn on Etsy:

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2 HEARTS ON A PENCIL…Happy Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day from Feng Shui By Fishgirl! Hearts are a universal symbol of Love & Relationship (imagine what it would be like if instead of the cute heart shape we associated feelings with our lungs or kidneys?). Notice this picture of a pencil and the twin hearts carved out of the graphite tip in one piece. To me this represents several important ideas to remember about love: its beauty, its fragility, that two hearts are united as one, that we are all connected like links in a chain, that we write on each other’s hearts daily with the words we choose to express ourselves (so be careful what you say to one another so as not to hurt the one you love). Be sure to search through my archives to find several articles related to Love & Relationship and how to improve your feng shui in this regard. Much love xoxo, fishgirl

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COUGAR LOVE

Since my theme this month is Love & Relationship, I decided to do a post on cougars. You know, the older woman/ younger man relationship. I googled it and several sites came up. DateMrsRobinson.com and CougarLife.com and UrbanCougar.com and MyCougarFling.com, just to name a few. My research is limited to a google not an ogle so I can’t vouch for the legitimacy of these sites.  And of course, you can meet your personal Ashton Kutcher anywhere…at the gym, the grocery store, school, etc.

To utilize feng shui to attract a new love interest, you will want to strengthen your Love & Relationships sector. I’ve done lots of articles on love so be sure to search my archives.

I would like to hear YOUR cougar experiences. Are you with someone who is more than 8 years younger than you? How did you meet? What challenges does that pose for you both and what is the best thing about your relationship? Tell Feng Shui By Fishgirl your stories in the comments section.

Ashton Kutcher and his cougar Demi Moore in happier times.

 

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A VALENTINE TO A SUPER DOG

Pets add uplifting feng shui ch’i to our lives in so many ways. One of their greatest gifts is to love us unconditionally and that in turn opens our hearts to Love & Relationship. Don’t get discouraged if this Valentine’s Day finds you alone. Go to your local animal shelter and adopt a dog or a cat if you can afford their proper care and feeding, or volunteer to work at a shelter if you can’t take on that responsibility now. And for the story that goes with the photo here, go to this link: Becoming a Dog Person : StubbyDog. It’s a love letter to a dog from a cat person. Spoiler Alert: bring tissue!

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OFFICE ROMANCE

February’s theme at Feng Shui By Fishgirl is Love & Relationship. Check out this link for all you need to know about conducting your office romance: OFFICE ROMANCE | Feng Shui By Fishgirl.

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GIVING THE GIFT OF TIME

I’m reposting this because even though Colby is now a Big Girl (she’ll be 12 next spring) and I am 7 years in to my relationship, the spirit of this post is still relevant and uplifting. Enjoy!

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“Cupcake Car” from Neiman Marcus Christmas Catalog…just in time to save the world from war, hunger, and poverty……

Rampant materialism is all around. It can only mean one thing:
’tis the commercialized holiday season where the loudest silver bell
ringing is the “ka-ching” of the merchant’s cash register. Lest
anyone think I am a Bah Humbug kind of gal, let me explain that
I am 100% behind the idea of giving. And apparently, so is my
little friend Colby whom I visited a couple of years ago over the Thanksgiving holiday in Downer’s Grove, Illinois.

There was a Christmas parade there culminating in
Colby’s first meeting with Santa Claus. The line to sit on Santa’s lap
was a long one and it was very chilly winter weather. Naturally,
Colby had her list of requests ready to whisper into jolly St. Nick’s
ear. What charmed me most was that Colby also had other people in mind. She asked me what I wanted from Santa and she promised to ask him for me. When I told her to ask Santa to bring me a handsome rich boyfriend for me, Colby giggled and said, “Are you sure?” since her own sights were set on receiving a Barbie Princess Playhouse and she couldn’t quite imagine a boyfriend being more fun than that!

On the way home, she asked her mother if we could make a present for Santa Claus,too. Not just the usual cookies and milk for Santa
and some carrots for the reindeer, either. Colby wanted to make
a very elaborate piece of art for him. Although this little girl
was excited about what she might be receiving from Santa this year, she was equally–or even more!– excited about giving to others. And it is when we give to others that we actually give back to ourselves. What goes around really does come around in unexpected ways.

I have found throughout the years that the one thing that people most appreciate getting as a gift is your time. Time is a luxury in our hectic world. The gift of time can manifest itself in various ways (here are a few ideas):

* Sending holiday greeting cards? Take the time to write
a little personal note in there. Even one sentence pertaining to
the unique relationship you have with the person you
are sending the card to will make such a difference.
This serves to strengthen your relationships both professional and personal.

*Take the time to make some phone calls. Reach out to people
you have not talked to in years. It need not be a long one–you can
even set your timer to match your budget. With cheap cell phone
plans and discount phone cards or Skype online phones readily available, it’s easier than ever to stay connected (do I sound like Catherine Zeta Jones for Cingular Wireless, or what?!). One of the feng shui methods for creating opportunities is called “The Water Method” and it involves making phone calls to just about every contact you
have ever had without expectation of anything in return. The idea
is to reconnect. That simple act can bring abundance into your
life in unexpected ways.

* Make time to play with a child–your own or someone else’s
if you don’t have any. Children’s energy and joy is contagious
and a real mood booster if you’re feeling stressed this season.
You might even consider bringing your child to visit an elderly
family member at a nursing home and brighten someone
else’s day by visiting some of the other residents. By the way,
many hospitals, hospices, and senior homes have programs
by which people can bring their pets (usually dogs or cats)
in to visit with patients. Check with your local facility to see if
this might be a way for you to give your time.

* Volunteering your time to serve food to the less fortunate
is one sure way to get out of your own head if you have holiday
depression. Check with the Salvation Army, your church or temple,
or your community action center to find out where the volunteer
soup kitchen is in your town. Giving this gift of yourself is sure
to make you feel great.

*Make your own “gift certificates” of your time. For example, you
can give someone you love a night off with their spouse by handing
them a gift certificate that says you will baby-sit their kids for an entire evening. Another good one is to think of some senior citizen you know who is in the predicament of not being able to drive anymore– the gift certificate you give to her might be to offer to drive her to the mall or grocery store. Get creative!

As we wind down the old year and ring in the new one, this is the perfect time to reflect on where we’ve been and where we’re going. Don’t forget to take some time for yourself to clean up and clear out any unfinished business so you can go into the new year with a clean slate. Set aside some time to take care of yourself and to set some intentions for what you would like to manifest in your life next year. By the way, Santa did bring me that boyfriend— good work, Colby!

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WEDDING RING COFFIN– a + or a -?

I was intrigued recently by a story in AARP‘s November newsletter. It was called “Ways to Celebrate Splitsville”. What to do with wedding rings? Jill Testa came up with the wedding ring coffin pictured above. She’s been getting some play with it in the press (The View covered it) so I thought I should weigh in with the feng shui analysis on it. The idea of finding closure and moving on from a dead marriage is a good one. This item might help you. But it’s only good feng shui if you bury the coffin. Plan an actual ceremony around the burial and  Keeping the coffin on your mantel or next to your regular jewelry box (or anywhere in your space) defeats the purpose as the symbol of negative ch’i energy is still present and in fact the coffin symbol is not a happy one either. A better way to celebrate might be to sell those rings and take a vacation with the cash generated. Or donate the money gained to charity. What do you think–is this wedding ring coffin a good idea or a bad one?

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PUMPKIN RAMBLE…LOVE & RELATIONSHIP IN THE UKRAINE | Feng Shui By Fishgirl

 

 

 

PUMPKIN RAMBLE…LOVE & RELATIONSHIP IN THE UKRAINE | Feng Shui By Fishgirl.    This is a repost of a previous blog I wrote that is very timely for Halloween! Enjoy 🙂

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HERE’S HOPING ARNOLD WON’T BE BACK

Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver in happier days.

I have always admired Maria Shriver and at the same time always wondered what the attraction was between her and Arnold Schwarzenegger. To me the differences in their backgrounds and especially their political beliefs seemed like too great a gap to bridge. Now the media hounds are feasting on the sordid scandal that surrounds the dissolution of their 25 year marriage. My heart goes out to Maria and I am glad to see that she has friends like Oprah who will help her through this heartbreak. The fact that your partner is cheating on you is devastating. The fact that your partner is cheating without using a condom is unforgivable.

When a partner cheats on you it turns your world upside down. The deception and betrayal shock you first and then numb you. It turns everything you believed to be true into a lie that shakes your foundation. It steals your confidence in yourself, your ability to trust, your judgement of good character…nothing seems real anymore. Arnold Schwarzenegger not only hurt his wife by cheating, he created a situation that put her health in jeopardy (unprotected sex has many consequences besides conceiving a child– STD’s are more common than ever and can lead to cancer, infertility, and AIDS) and put the well being of his 4 children with Maria in danger as well. I don’t think Arnold–and other cheaters–get this, nor do they care. It requires complete narcissism to cheat. Selfishness to the max. Because an honorable person would do the right thing: get out of one relationship before getting into another one. Arnold wasn’t thinking of anyone else but Arnold.

New reports are revealing that his mistress/housekeeper was pregnant at the same time as Maria was with their last child together.  Just think about your own kids and how they would handle this situation at school. And think about the so-called “love child” who is an innocent victim in all of this. What a shock to learn your mother is a ho?!

You've got a friend: Oprah Winfrey with Maria Shriver during taping of her upcoming final episode.

Maria Shriver will survive. She is a Kennedy, after all. And she has some powerful women friends like Oprah Winfrey who has already offered her a show on her new OWN television network. It’s no secret that Maria gave up her own career ambitions to help her husband run successfully for office as the Governor of California. Without her support it is doubtful that he would have won the election since even then he was under scrutiny with charges that he had groped several women. Maria stood by her man. I can’t help but thinking of a quote I read recently attributed to Tyra Banks: “Never dull your shine for someone else.”  It would seem that Maria has learned that lesson the hard way. Feng Shui By Fishgirl hopes Maria Shriver will be smiling from her authentic self real soon. Life is too short and too precious to waste on jerks like Arnold.

TIPS FOR MOVING ON AFTER SOMEONE CHEATS ON YOU:

* Read the Feng Shui By Fishgirl recipe for healing a broken heart.

* Spend time with good friends who will remind you that you are lovable.

* Take a vacation.

* Get a complete physical examination asap.

* Move on! Get on with your life as soon as you can. It can only get better.

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TIPS FOR LOVE & RELATIONSHIP

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I’ve been reading a lot of blogs lately, scouring the internet for Love & Relationship advice that Feng Shui By Fishgirl can give a stamp of approval to. Here are some articles that I think are helpful. Do you have any favorite Love & Relationship posts that you want to share a link to?

“WHAT NOT TO SAY WHEN YOU’RE LOVED ONE IS UPSET” by Robert Leahy

“WHY YOU’RE NOT MARRIED” by Tracy McMillan

“ANGER AND HEART HEALTH” by Silvie Celiz

“LOVE HORMONE SPRAY MAKES MEN AS SENSITIVE AS WOMEN”  by Mallory Creveling

“8 SIGNS YOUR MAN MIGHT BE DEPRESSED”  by Andrea G. Bonior

“10 TIPS FOR HOT SEX AFTER 60” by Joan Price

“THE REAL REASONS WOMEN UNDER 30 AREN’T HAVING SEX” by Katie Hintz-Zambrano

“ROMANCE TIPS” By The Stir

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