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HERE’S HOPING ARNOLD WON’T BE BACK

Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver in happier days.

I have always admired Maria Shriver and at the same time always wondered what the attraction was between her and Arnold Schwarzenegger. To me the differences in their backgrounds and especially their political beliefs seemed like too great a gap to bridge. Now the media hounds are feasting on the sordid scandal that surrounds the dissolution of their 25 year marriage. My heart goes out to Maria and I am glad to see that she has friends like Oprah who will help her through this heartbreak. The fact that your partner is cheating on you is devastating. The fact that your partner is cheating without using a condom is unforgivable.

When a partner cheats on you it turns your world upside down. The deception and betrayal shock you first and then numb you. It turns everything you believed to be true into a lie that shakes your foundation. It steals your confidence in yourself, your ability to trust, your judgement of good character…nothing seems real anymore. Arnold Schwarzenegger not only hurt his wife by cheating, he created a situation that put her health in jeopardy (unprotected sex has many consequences besides conceiving a child– STD’s are more common than ever and can lead to cancer, infertility, and AIDS) and put the well being of his 4 children with Maria in danger as well. I don’t think Arnold–and other cheaters–get this, nor do they care. It requires complete narcissism to cheat. Selfishness to the max. Because an honorable person would do the right thing: get out of one relationship before getting into another one. Arnold wasn’t thinking of anyone else but Arnold.

New reports are revealing that his mistress/housekeeper was pregnant at the same time as Maria was with their last child together.  Just think about your own kids and how they would handle this situation at school. And think about the so-called “love child” who is an innocent victim in all of this. What a shock to learn your mother is a ho?!

You've got a friend: Oprah Winfrey with Maria Shriver during taping of her upcoming final episode.

Maria Shriver will survive. She is a Kennedy, after all. And she has some powerful women friends like Oprah Winfrey who has already offered her a show on her new OWN television network. It’s no secret that Maria gave up her own career ambitions to help her husband run successfully for office as the Governor of California. Without her support it is doubtful that he would have won the election since even then he was under scrutiny with charges that he had groped several women. Maria stood by her man. I can’t help but thinking of a quote I read recently attributed to Tyra Banks: “Never dull your shine for someone else.”  It would seem that Maria has learned that lesson the hard way. Feng Shui By Fishgirl hopes Maria Shriver will be smiling from her authentic self real soon. Life is too short and too precious to waste on jerks like Arnold.

TIPS FOR MOVING ON AFTER SOMEONE CHEATS ON YOU:

* Read the Feng Shui By Fishgirl recipe for healing a broken heart.

* Spend time with good friends who will remind you that you are lovable.

* Take a vacation.

* Get a complete physical examination asap.

* Move on! Get on with your life as soon as you can. It can only get better.

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LETTING GO OF LOST LOVE: The John Kennedy & Christina Haag Story

Christina Haag has written a memoir (see my review here) about her 5 year romance with John F.Kennedy, Jr. and ‘Come to the Edge‘ is currently on the NY Times Bestseller list. My path crossed with Christina’s a handful of times in Los Angeles in the early 90’s when we attended the same yoga classes in Larchmont and occasionally our circles of friends overlapped. I realize now that I met Christina quite soon after her breakup with John; her natural warmth was concealed under an actress’s fragile veneer of aloofness, self-protection in the aftermath of the media frenzy that accompanies celebrity breakups. ‘Come to the Edge’ is a tender love story told with sentimentality and innocence. The pain is gone and the memories are happy ones. The author writes that she did fall in love again (more than once) since John. But she never married. And the book is mostly about her time with him. She still dreams about him. It would seem that this relationship is still very much on her mind but perhaps the book provides a catharsis that will bring some closure for her two decades later.

If you’re one of my clients or a longtime reader of Feng Shui By Fishgirl, you already know that the path to finding new love requires a clearing out and letting go of past love so you can move on. It takes as long as it takes. Sometimes we are paralyzed by the thought of falling in love because we might get our hearts broken again. Is it worth it? For many the answer is no. Or a half-hearted yes. Taking the plunge takes courage. Courage to let go of the past. Courage to honor your story at the same time you move on. Writing in a journal can bepart of the recipe for healing a broken heart. Exploring your dreams in a dream circle with others or studying with Connie Kaplan or Robert Moss can be of great benefit. Reading the stories of others can also help–‘Come to the Edge’ is a book that many women will relate to (even if we’re not involved with a celebrity). It’s a fun, quick read for a rainy afternoon.

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