At Feng Shui By Fishgirl we believe that real women have curves. It’s time to give ourselves and our daughters a positive body image role model and stop beating up on ourselves for having the curves that nature intended. Embrace your bellies, butts, and beauty. Support clothing manufacturers who “get it”. Avoid those that don’t. Get the skinny on the story at Plus Model Magazine and see a lot more photos of gorgeous model Kasia with thought provoking sayings. The ones of Kasia embracing an anorexic model that looks like a bag o’ bones is devastating.
And for related stories about how women are held to unrealistic standards–especially celebrity women, but it trickles down to all of us–see this intelligent article by Ashley Judd.
Feng Shui By Fishgirl is focusing this month on the Travel & Helpful People section of the bagua. I have been to Hunting Island State Park outside of Beaufort, SC twice and its unusual beauty still haunts me. The beach has trees strewn about it like so many pick-up sticks, left there by a hurricane several years ago. The branches and trunks and roots of trees poke up out of the sand of this broad beach. The feeling is eerie and surreal. Walking among these sculptural forms with the waves crashing nearby is a meditative and inspiring experience. The park also offers a beautiful lighthouse, boardwalk trails that take you out into the grassy lowlands marshes, and lots of wildlife. They even have a pond that is sometimes inhabited by an alligator. If you decide to go, stay at the City Loft Hotel–a boutique hotel in historic Beaufort. (tip: they are pet friendly!)
Read and see video about the Glamour photo shoot of “plus size” model Lizzie Miller which is creating a lot of buzz lately. In my post Bellies, Butts, & Beauty last year I touched on this issue as it applies to both women AND men. Whatever your size, having self esteem and confidence is what makes you attractive to others.
One of the Matisse odalisque paintings.
Okay, maybe it’s just my way of justifying the obligatory holiday weight gain and I’ll admit I need to exercise and eat healthier. But even at my skinniest I’ll never be Nicole Richie thin. And frankly, I don’t want to be. When did bellies & butts and looking like a woman go out of style? When I look at a Matisse painting I see myself. Beautiful, ripe, juicy womanhood was once considered to be the stuff goddesses were made of. There has been an attempt to acknowledge women come in all sizes and shapes and I applaud that even if it’s only a marketing ploy to sell more soap.
Art nouveau vases from the Lightner Museum.
These days, even the alien tribes of Avatar are anorexic. I found the Na’vi beautiful artistic creations, but it bothered me that there was no variation within the tribe. All Na’vi were the same height, weight, and pretty much the same youthful age without seniors and babies and people-in-between. I’m sorry, but one chief and his shaman wife do not make up a demographic of wise elders.
BTW, men are being pressured to conform to certain standards of beauty now, too. Case in point: Sean Murray who plays “McGee” on tv’s popular NCIS show has been often teased about working out in several episodes over the years. This last season, it was evident that he had lost the slight double chin, about 20 lb. His face actually looks haggard now that he’s lost weight. He’s always been cute. It’s just now he is more in line with Hollywood’s standards. I’m looking at his “before” pic and scratching my head…is THIS fat? I don’t think so…
To have good feng shui for our tribe–the human race–we need to embrace our own inner beauty, each and every one of us. Andy Warhol said “If everyone’s not a beauty, than nobody is.”
New thinner McGee.
Are you conflicted about your beauty? Please share your comments.