Have you ever experienced a ghostly presence in real life or in dream time? It could take the form of hearing a voice like this story from Trainee Golem Builder Blog (where I borrowed this great ghost picture from). Or it could be that you are having a problem with shattering glasses and things breaking frequently in your home space. Some people I’ve spoken to who live in centuries-old homes like their ghosts and feel that they add friendly energy to their lives. As a feng shui practitioner I have witnessed many paranormal entities. I always recommend removing ch’i energy that doesn’t belong to you. Get rid of residual energy by doing a thorough smudge / incense/ space clearing. You’ll feel more energized and lighter once you’ve banished the otherworldly energy.
Category Archives: Self Help
Check out this article New Reason to Believe That ‘Everything Happens for a Reason’ ….good stuff discussing Magical Thinking……
which sounds a lot like setting your feng shui intentions! It’s not as woo-woo as it sounds.
Letter from a Mother to a Daughter: “My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”… Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep. When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl? When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way… remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day… the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If I occasionaly lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you. And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked. When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love. I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you… my darling daughter. ”
Marriages mostly begin with the ritual and ceremony of a wedding. Standing up publicly to proclaim your love for each other in front of family and friends and even strangers is a time honored tradition in many cultures. This is a form of setting intentions and stating the good things we wish to manifest as a couple. What happens if we divorce? Divorce can take its toll on both partners and of course if there are children the emotional trauma is often intensified.
What if there were a ceremony that honored the couple’s time together and helped bring closure and dignity to the end of a marriage? According to the New York Times Sunday Magazine article published April 29th more and more couples are untying the marriage knot as formally as they began. The latest trend is to have a Divorce Ceremony. Feng Shui By Fishgirl thinks this idea of mutually setting intentions for parting ways has excellent feng shui merit. I also believe this would go a long way towards healing wounds and freeing up ch’i energy so that everyone involved can move on with their lives in a more positive way. What do you think?
Sometimes you gotta ask yourself the tough questions. Truth and Cake blogger Rian asked a doozy with this one:
What Did You Give Up, To Get What You Got? | Truth and Cake. Knowing your own answers to that question can help you lay the foundation for attracting more of what you want into your life. How? The more you know yourself and your goals, the better equipped you are to arrange your feng shui to strengthen your foundation.
At Feng Shui By Fishgirl we believe that real women have curves. It’s time to give ourselves and our daughters a positive body image role model and stop beating up on ourselves for having the curves that nature intended. Embrace your bellies, butts, and beauty. Support clothing manufacturers who “get it”. Avoid those that don’t. Get the skinny on the story at Plus Model Magazine and see a lot more photos of gorgeous model Kasia with thought provoking sayings. The ones of Kasia embracing an anorexic model that looks like a bag o’ bones is devastating.
And for related stories about how women are held to unrealistic standards–especially celebrity women, but it trickles down to all of us–see this intelligent article by Ashley Judd.
Treating yourself every once in awhile is good for your morale and for your ch’i energy. That’s what Feng Shui By Fishgirl believes in. Who’s with me on this one? For the recipe to this incredibly decadent chocolate brownie ice cream bar on a stick go to punchfork.com (they say it’s “vegetarian” but I don’t see any vegetables, do you?).
One of the most interesting green sustainable products on the global market that Feng Shui By Fishgirl has discovered is from Spain. Charcolive is producing restorative sleeping pillows made from naturally carbonized olive pits. The process–patented technology modeled after an ancient Far East formula– results in pits that look like this and are said to ionize the air, eliminate moisture, and have deodorizing properties, too. The company makes pillows, air fresheners, and a refrigerator item that keeps vegetables fresher/crisper for a longer time–all made with these pits.
The idea behind the pillows is the pits inside mold to you so they cradle your head and neck in the proper position throughout your sleep. Supposedly you get a more restful night that could help prevent headaches and cervical spine issues. I bet they could also help eliminate snoring if you get your head supported correctly with this pillow. They offer 3 versions, all come with their own removable/washable pillow cases and arrive shipped to you in a complimentary logo tote bag (a nice touch!). These babies are heavier than normal pillows and have a similar consistency to bean bags.
Frankly, I was skeptical to try these out but I’m glad I did. I often wake up perspiring from a hot flash—with this pillow absorbing the wet heat around my neck and face, I didn’t wake up and that was very cool. I also like to watch videos or read the Feng Shui By Fishgirl blog on my kindlefire at night in bed which often results in an uncomfortable crick in my neck. I tried the Charcolive Natura on top of a pile of regular pillows to keep my head in position– it definitely felt very supportive and I was not as sore the next day as I would be without this ergonomic solution. Be warned that the shifting pits make a crunchy noise when you move your head. For me, it is a natural”white noise” sound like a soothing rainstick. My boyfriend is more sensitive however and couldn’t deal with these “crunchy granola pillows” 🙂
I think the organic design benefits and environmental pluses of Charcolive pillows outweigh the negatives. These pillows are a more hygienic alternative to synthetic or goose down. Since they are designed to last –you “clean” them by removing the cover, shaking out the pillow and letting it soak up the sunshine outdoors for a couple hours every 2 months or so– they are a good deal and will not have the disastrous environmental impact that polyester filled pillows have. Good for health and good for the environment means good feng shui for all concerned.
Here at Feng Shui By Fishgirl we believe in the power of setting intentions as a foundation of feng shui principles. How nice then to discover that a recent University of Maryland study confirms that good intentions applied consciously do have the power to ease pain and add to pleasure. This is groundbreaking news for the medical field, too, as it provides a reason for doctors to improve bedside manner. ALL of us can benefit. Read the study:
You may have the wanderlust without the time or money to travel. Don’t despair! A great way to getaway–if only in your mind–is to take a few moments to explore the world through other people’s eyes without ever leaving your desk. You’ll be surprised how a change of scenery on your computer screen can refresh your spirits. Over at Huffington Post, we’re grateful that Michael Hodson has listed his picks for Top 10 Travel Blogs:
Michael Hodson: Top Travel Blogs to Discover. <<< Click the link to start travelin’ now!