Category Archives: Command Position

PERSONAL BOUNDARIES

Protecting your personal boundaries is as important as protecting your home space with feng shui. With the advent of social media more and more privacy is lost.

Here are a few easy push-backs to have ready in your verbal arsenal when people put their noses  where they don’t belong:

Why are you asking me that question?

Why should I tell you that?

Let’s talk about your finances (and/or sex life) instead!

I don’t know. I’ll get back to you.

Will it hurt your feelings if I keep my personal life private?

Ask my lawyer.

Alternatively, you can flip it around. If someone says to you, for example, “How can you afford that?” you can say “How can you NOT afford that?” or “How can you afford THAT?”.

 

 

 

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Beam Away

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This A-frame beam may be pleasant to look at but my feng shui hunch is it’s not a great placement for a bed. Traditionally, feng shui practice tells us that the beam is pushing a heavy weight and that energy can be felt if you are sensitive to it. You may experience it as headaches, restlessness, bad dreams, and uncomfortable sleeping positions.Solutions to counteracting beam energy:

*Relocate the bed so it’s not under the beam.

*Try a canopy bed with a white fabric between you and the beam.

*Paint the beam white. White symbolizes metal, metal cuts wood and negative energy will be diffused.

*Place a traditional Chinese feng shui firecracker under the beam. Perhaps you can make it look like an art sculpture to disguise its appearance. Much easier to paint the beam!Screen Shot 2014-12-18 at 10.10.08 AM

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BEDS & WINDOWS

Beds placed in front of windows tend to be design and feng shui no-no’s. Except when they are as cleverly done and as thoughtfully balanced as this one is. The key is to incorporate proper window dressing as well. Check out about a dozen more excellent examples of how to solve this design dilemma with good feng shui at ElementsofStyleBlog.

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COMMAND POSITION-CHRISTIAN GREY WOULD APPROVE

This is an example of a desk in the Command Position. Courtesy ApartmentTherapy.com

Feng Shui By Fishgirl often talks about the Command Position. No, it’s not the one in 50 Shades of Grey novel. The Command Position is most frequently referring to the placement of your desk or your bed but it can also refer to how you are situated in a restaurant, too. The idea is to place your back to a wall so that you can have a clear view of the entry door to the room. This way you are least vulnerable to someone coming up and surprising you. You are in command of the room. The photo above from ApartmentTherapy.com is a good example of this. The only thing that makes this particular office a little weak is that the back is facing a window instead of a solid wall. But overall the design of the space is pretty good. And one can always put the blinds down to create a solid wall effect when sitting at the desk working.

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WHAT’S BEHIND YOUR BED?

Photograph courtesy of Furnishism.com

What’s wrong with this picture? The headboard of the bed is along the same wall as the entryway to the left. That means this bed is definitely NOT in The Command Position to see who comes into the room while you’re resting and vulnerable in bed. Why is that important? Subliminal message is that you won’t feel safe because you are at a disadvantage. The obvious cure is to find The Command Position and place your bed there. If it’s impossible due to the architecture of the space, the second best cure would be to have a mirror strategically placed on the opposite wall so you can see the entry way from the bed. Design-wise that might mean a mirrored closet door, a standing mirror, etc. Feng Shui By Fishgirl likes that the bedroom in the picture above (from Furnishism.com)has balanced lighting and nice bedding. However it only has one side table (not a good balance for optimum feng shui), the sheer curtains and the satiny bedding seem to not be able to hold their own against the heavy leather furniture, there are no shades on the windows for light or privacy.

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YOU’RE GROUNDED!

Sometimes I feel like I’m upside down and not at all connected to the earthly plane. Do you ever get that feeling—do friends and family say to you “Hey! Where’d you go?” when you are with them but seem miles away? You might be a dreamer and as a child you had a rich fantasy life that seemed as real as waking life.

When I feel like this I now realize the need for grounding. Both feet need to be firmly planted on this earth if I’m going to be fully present and successful in the world we live in. Here are some tools to help you ground yourself, too:

* Smudge yourself with sage or incense. You do this by lighting the smudger and wafting the smoke all around yourself (or have someone else do it for you as you stand still). Envision yourself being cleansed of all negative vibes and starting with a blank slate.

* Do some deep breathing. Sit comfortably, yoga style, with back straight but body relaxed (you don’t want to be holding tension anywhere). Take in a breath deeply thinking “I AM HERE”. Let the breath out completely thinking “I AM NOW”. Repeat this process in rounds of 3 until you feel completely grounded.

* Before going into the dream state at bedtime, be very conscious and state your intentions to always return to your body no matter where your dreaming takes your astral body. Say out loud before you go to sleep, “I remember that I am here and I am now and I will always return to my physical body before I wake up.”

* Eat root vegetables such as carrots, beets, potatoes when you are feeling too ethereal. Root veggies come from the ground and will help remind you to connect to earth energy.

*Take time each day for yourself. Even if it is only ten minutes. Practice being mindful of who you are and where you are and recommit to being your authentic self.

Any other tips? Please comment!

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DO TRY THIS AT HOME

 

"Big Chair (Thomasville)"  (c)Katy Allgeyer

"Big Chair (Thomasville)" (c)Katy Allgeyer

SURVIVING IS IMPORTANT

 “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ~ Maya Angelou

The runaway success–indeed, the survival for several years of seasons!–of the TV show “Survivor” proves that a  large number of the viewing public is fascinated with whether or not they could last under primitive living conditions. Then again, maybe the show’s popularity just proves that people want to see girls in skimpy clothing eating raw kangaroo meat covered with flies.

But regardless of whether or not you watch television, you may be interested to know that many of the principles of Feng Shui originated as survival techniques. The ancestors of our ancestors who lived in caves knew that it was important not to turn one’s back to the cave entrance. If you did, you could be devoured by a cave dwelling beast (lions and tigers and bears, oh my!), or, a rival tribe could come and steal your fire, your food, and your family.

It was in this way that the idea of positioning the bed and the stove and the desk so that the door to the room can be easily seen was born. In this placement, one feels able to relax and “let one’s guard down” (notice the idiom that evolved as a direct result of this principle). Of course, the ideal furniture placement can not always work within the limitations of the architecture of our homes and offices. This is where a Feng Shui expert can offer you alternate solutions to achieve the desired peace of mind.

Ch’i Whiz! It Really Does Feel Different

DO try this at home (when you are bored with eating bonbons and being waited on hand and foot by your husband):

Take a room that has only one entry and place a chair in the middle of the room with the back facing the door. If you have other people around, ask them to give you some time to settle into your room, but eventually have them move around in the hallway outside the door and come into the room occasionally without telling you when they are coming in.

Now, sit in the chair so that you are unable to see the door. Sit there for awhile, try to get a sense of the ch’i energy surrounding you and pay attention to how it feels. Now, try to read a magazine.

Notice how you feel. Do you feel uneasy and unable to concentrate on the magazine? Is your mind constantly wandering to the activity in the hallway and on alert mode so that you won’t be startled when someone comes into the room and surprises you?

Ok, once you’ve experienced that feeling, turn the chair around to where you have a clear view of the door as you sit and read your magazine. Notice how you feel. Is your posture more at ease? Are you able to focus more intently on the task of reading the magazine? You have now witnessed the importance of placement for  peace of mind based on the principle of survival.

THRIVING IS ELEGANT  

The ancient cave dwellers painted their cave walls mostly to serve  sacred ceremonial purposes and did not have to worry about matching the drapery fabric to the wall paint. Today, we express ourselves through the way we decorate our homes and the myriad of choices we make as to color, style, space, objects, art, and placement. But even though we have come a long way from the cave and the necessity of being in constant survival mode, we can feel a connection to our ancestors and benefit from their wisdom by incorporating the principles of Feng Shui into our modern lives. 

 

 

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