Monthly Archives: June 2009

5 STEPS TO OVERCOMING THE FEAR FACTOR

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I grew up in New Hampshire where winters were always white. This was ski country and somehow I was 18 and a senior in high school before I enrolled in ski lessons (only to find every single classmate in my group was a 6-year old first grader). Those little kids were zooming down the slopes while I was stiffly towering over them as I slowly made my way down the baby slopes. I cried when I fell down time after time and realized I was the worst skier in the bunch. But I stuck with the training and learned downhill skiing. And the little kids thought I was cool for skiing with their class.

If you’re enrolled in classes retraining for a new career, you may feel a little out of place, too, especially if the majority of the other students enrolled came directly from high school. Or perhaps you’re going back to school after several years of staying at home to raise a family. In that case, you may find the rest of the students are half your age. Will you be able to keep up? It’s scary enough going to school the first time around, let alone going back for a second career after years outside of the structure of an academic setting.

Feeling fear is a natural human response built into our system as a survival mechanism. Without the adrenaline rush caused when the “fight or flight” response kicks in, we would not have the wherewithal to survive extreme challenges. Back on the slopes, I don’t know what I was more afraid of: skiing down the mountain or how bad I would feel if I couldn’t do it and all those little kids could. Fear of failure motivated me to learn. It pushed me to go for it.

But there is a flip side to fear. Fear can paralyze us and block us from reaching our full potential. Fear may make us choose the easier route…stay where we are without testing ourselves, or drop out when the going gets tough instead of working harder to complete the course. Fear comes in many disguises. It can be masked by embarrassment, guilt, low self-esteem, and even anger.

Fear is the opposite of love. Love opens up our hearts and our minds to new people and new experiences. Fear keeps us “safe” from being hurt but in doing so, prevents us from real growth. Here are some tips for overcoming your fear and gaining confidence to achieve your goals.
*Breathe deeply. Relaxing the body and mind really helps to alleviate fear.
*Meditate on Ganesha. The Hindu deity Ganesha is represented by an elephant and is called the Lord of Success and Remover of All Obstacles. Visualize the elephant god removing the fears causing roadblocks for you. No matter your belief system, meditation is a very grounding practice. Self confidence comes with that inner peace you get from a regular meditation practice.
*You’re not alone. We’re often intimidated because we think others may know something we don’t. If we take a moment to realize that the other guy is afraid, too, that kind of levels the playing field and our fear disappears.
*Take back your power. Imagining the competition without their clothes on is one technique to overcome your inferiority complex. When we see the vulnerability in others, we no longer fear risking our own vulnerability. Give yourself permission to trust in your own ability and talent, allow yourself to feel and work through uncomfortable situations, name your fears and let them go.
*Keep growing. Remaining curious and open to new experiences is key to a successful life ruled by love and not fear. Think of all the things you’ll miss out on if you let your fears get in the way.

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CUSHY LOFT

We feel like we're in a treehouse in India when we're in the loft.

Saw a post on Apartment Therapy recently about how many is too many pillows. Here’s a glimpse of our upstairs sleeping loft. We completely covered the floor in square cushions and an embroidered futon. We love lounging around up there. I do need to paint the walls, though. Any color suggestions?

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MOVING IN TOGETHER

 I’m reposting this today in honor of having met my mate 4 years ago today. That was my Lucky Day.

Lucky Day (0, 00, 12, 21,25,26)

"Lucky Day (0, 00, 12, 21,25,26)" (c) Katy Allgeyer

 WHEN MERGING two households together to form one, it’s so important to consider your partner and the new environment you are creating together as a team.  Feng shui principles can provide a clear roadmap for facing this challenge.For harmony in your Love & Relationship area of life, it’s important that both people involved have equal say as to how the shared home will be used and how it will reflect both personalities and the joint personality of the couple.
Here are some feng shui principles to apply whether you are just starting out with someone new, or, want to re-examine your current relationship status and make some positive changes where you are now.

* PURGING mementos symbolic of past relationships (whether they were successful or failed) to make room for a fresh start with a new partner is essential to good feng shui. Whether we realize it or not, those photos & videos, diaries, love notes, old engagement rings, stuffed toys, sheets, wedding gifts–you name it— carry an energetic residue from the prior relationship. That energy can block your new relationship from its full potential to bloom or influence it in subtle ways. At the very least, those sentimental mementos can pose an annoying reminder to your partner that you may still carry feelings for someone else (if you don’t, why do you feel you have to hold onto them?). At the worst, those items can be blocking your success. Case in point: a client of mine had divorced and remarried but had her wedding china from her first marriage stored in a box in her master bedroom. Her new husband was having difficulty bringing in new clients. I suggested the china be moved out of their bedroom immediately and sold for cash. The cash flow stimulated more clients and soon after the couple was able to move on to a new home and new happiness (they were able to have a baby together once the ch’i was aligned properly). You owe it to yourself–and your partner–to clear the way for new love to flourish, rather than reserving valuable relationship space for past loves and memories. 

*IT TAKES TWO to tango. Feng shui says to only have things in your home space that you absolutely love. Now that there are two of you, both of your feelings have to be considered. If one of you has a favorite object that the other person hates, your
feng shui will be better if you do not have that item in your joint home. Bring it to your office if you feel you must. Much better is to let it go and pass it on to someone else that may enjoy it. Try to select items from both partners belongings and/or purchase new things together that you both feel good about. The more balance you can bring to your yin (feminine) and yang (masculine) shapes within your shared space, the more balanced the two of you will be when it comes to your relationship. 

*BALANCING BEDS. Having your bed placed in the “Command Position” is always best for your feng shui. What is the Command Position? Having your headboard on any wall other than the one that the entry door is on, so you will
have a clear view to the door. Realistically, this is not always possible. Not all homes are designed well. If your bedroom is configured so that the only option is to put your bed on the same wall as the entry, take heart. There is a solution.
Place a mirror on the wall opposite the door and position it so that you are able to view anyone who might be entering the room as you lay in your bed. Another solution is to have a noisemaker of some kind on the doorway…a bead curtain, for example, or a bell. This would depend on the design and decor of the home and what makes the most sense in your particular space.

*GOOD INTENTIONS. Being kind to others as well as to yourself is the best intention you can contribute to your feng shui. Always try to honor the relationship by considering your partners feelings. Discuss, discuss, discuss.There will be conflict. There will be compromise. As long as there is respect, there is room for love to flourish. 

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LIVING IN THE LIGHT

"Isle au Haut Light"  (c) Katy Allgeyer 2009
I’ve always been fascinated by extraordinary living spaces. Tree houses for example. And castles. In Maine, light houses are called simply “lights”. This one I painted recently is in Isle au Haut off the coast of Stonington, Maine where I live.

The view is fantastic!

The view is fantastic!

The cool thing about it is you can experience living in the light (or near to it anyway)–The Keeper’s House B & B is no longer open but they are renting out the Lighthouse Wood Shed by the week.
We randomly witnessed a couple getting married at the light two summers ago…it was so romantic. Is the feng shui good? Because the light’s purpose is to save lives and give guidance to seafarers, yes. However, to live there year round could prove daunting as the nearby stimulus of seawinds and surging water would be too much chi (energy) to bear at times. That being said, the symbolism of a light makes it a perfect image to hang in your home to remind you of the light within us all. Great feng shui!

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WATER WORKS: Feng Shui Networking Methods To Attract Opportunities

Stock photo from tommyimages.com

Stock photo from tommyimages.com


Competition for available jobs has never been fiercer. We all need that extra somethin’-somethin’ to set us apart from the crowd. Feng Shui might give you that extra edge.These Feng Shui techniques bring movement (water energy) into your life, improving your chances in the working world. The idea is to cast your net wide into the sea of
humanity.

MOVING WATER METHOD I :
Make a point of contacting at least one different person a day for 27 days in a row. They should be someone you know from your past that you’ve had no contact with for at least six months. Think former employers and colleagues, classmates, teachers, former clients…anyone, even relatives that you’ve lost touch with counts!

The contact can be by phone, e-mail or letter. The point is to reach out to that person in an upbeat way without expectation or requesting any favors. Avoid all negative conversation or complaints.If an opportunity–social or business–should come as a result of your communication, do not turn it down. (IE: if the person invites you to her son’s bar mitzvah, go! If a job is being offered, go on the interview even if you decide later on not to take the position).

TIP: Three people per day in 27 days increases your odds!

MOVING WATER METHOD II :
Instead of contacting people you know, this time you must make a point of meeting (face 2 face) nine new people each day for nine consecutive days. Names must be exchanged in order to fulfill the
requirement. Even better, exchange business cards and phone numbers if possible. People you meet on line at the grocery count. So does your postal worker if you’ve never asked him his name.

For both methods, it’s important to note that if you miss a day, you need to start all over again. It takes a lot of courage to practice these two Feng Shui techniques. You’re well on your way to creating a network of opportunity as well as developing your personal confidence and charisma. Create your own luck and you’ll have the Feng Shui By Fishgirl advantage!

(Have you tried this method? Share your results!)

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WHAT’S PARIS HILTON GOT TO DO WITH FENG SHUI?

No celebrity could be more “high maintenance” than Paris Hilton.
Watching Paris–the girl who has everything– on the
“The Simple Life” struggle to comprehend what having less
of everything is like for the common folk was hilarious. What the show
didn’t really convey, however, is that there are some advantages
to having less material things around to deal with.

Photo courtesy of babble.com

Photo courtesy of babble.com

In Feng Shui terms, less is more. Less clutter translates to more
room for opportunity to come in. Having less ‘stuff’ also means
having less things to worry about . The less we worry, the less
stress we have in our lives. Just as it’s crucial to keep up with
our own health, it’s important to keep our ‘stuff’ in good working
order to maintain the health of our Feng Shui.

Ever notice how things seem to break down all at once? Light bulbs,
smoke detector batteries, computers, printers, fax machines, cars…
as soon as you find out you have one thing to replace or repair, another one crops up almost simultaneously. As a rule, good Feng Shui dependson having things in tip-top shape. If you have a broken clock or watch, for example, this is very symbolic of opportunities frozen in time. Many people have antique clocks in their homes that are no longer working. The solution is to get them tick-tocking again a.s.a.p.

FENG SHUI MAINTENANCE CHECKLIST:

1. Look for any broken items around your home and office.
Take them in to be fixed or toss ‘em and get new ones.

2. Surround yourself with things that you truly love. If you have any negative feelings towards furniture and equipment in your office, replace them whenever possible.

3. Backup your computer data and delete junk files regularly for
clutter-free efficiency. Get memory upgrades to handle your workload.

4. Keep a replenishable supply of light bulbs, batteries, and printer inks, handy.

5. Maintaining your auto should be automatic: check tires, wipers, oil each month.

6. Take care of your eyes, teeth, and body. Schedule doctor
appointments 6 months in advance. You’re worth it,
and as Paris says, “That’s hot!”.

What stuff do you need to throw out? Do your inventory and let us know what you tossed!

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PORTABLE FENG SHUI:Make your own feng shui travel kit

Many of us travel frequently for business purposes if not for pleasure. Whether it’s an extended stay at a corporate suite or an overnighter at a Motel 6 ®, there’s much that could be done to improve both the “home away from home” quality and the positive feng shui vibe of our traveler’s accommodations. Even the luxury hotels or villas we may splurge for during our vacation time can stand some feng shui TLC. Here’s my recipe for a portable feng shui kit you can assemble yourself.
If there is a large building or dominant structure directly opposite your room’s window, you’ll want to counteract the negative effects by hanging a feng shui solution to deflect the harmful draining ch’i. A bagua mirror faced outward would work, but, it’s much easier to find and to carry a small faceted crystal which serves just as well. Your crystal should be hung from a 9” red cord (simple red thread is fine). I suggest your kit contain at least three crystals so that you may employ one at your temporary office space, if needed, and/or in case you forget one when you check out and move on to your next destination.
Hotel rooms are continually turning over to new tenants. Residual psychic energy—positive or negative– is deposited each time a new occupant claims the space. To clear the space upon arrival, you’ll want to use a stick of incense. It’s much smaller and more convenient for traveling than carrying a sage smudging stick. Light the incense, begin at the entry door to your room and waft the smoke in as you circle the room in a clockwise direction. Set the intention to cleanse the ch’i and claim the space for yourself while you live there.
Your kit should contain a candle, too, preferably a red one. Tea lights work well and are small enough to transport and there are plain or scented versions. Place it in the far left corner from the entry door for good luck with money and a successful trip.

YOUR FENG SHUI TRAVEL KIT:
3 crystals on 9″ red cords
A few sticks of incense
Small red tea lights or votive candles
Matches or lighter

Bon voyage!

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