Comments on: CAN A MISMATCHED PAIR OF NIGHTSTANDS EVER BE GOOD FENG SHUI?

By: katyallgeyer

katyallgeyer — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 13:48:46 +0000

Hi Karlene- Thanks for the feedback.

By: Karlene Pratten

Karlene Pratten — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 04:41:36 +0000

Just wanted to stop by and say thanks. Enjoy reading your stuff.

By: katyallgeyer

katyallgeyer — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:45:46 +0000

hi priya,
the idea is to have equality & balance (reflected in the relationship). the question is, do you feel your relationship is unbalanced? do you feel one person has more dominance than the other? if not, it’s not likely to be bothering you. if yes, then adding two side tables will help. some inexpensive ideas: you can do two shelves (build yourself pretty cheaply) and use those instead of two tables/ they can be attached to your walls on either side of the bed. then you can put matching lamps one on each side on the shelf or attached to the walls over the shelves. or you could remove the bedside table and both sides of the bed equally have nothing there (inconvenient, i know). if you have two chests or two chairs that can serve as side tables you can use those.

By: priya

priya — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 02:58:05 +0000

i am married and have just 1 bedside . I can’t find another similar one and can’t afford to buy a new one. Can u plz suggest me a feng shui cure in some other way.

By: katyallgeyer

katyallgeyer — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 01:30:19 +0000

Nikki,
Your preference on the incense. The important thing is that the cabinets be the same size/design/color and it’s okay to have butterflies on one and birds on the other. You may want the more masculine yang image on the yang partner’s side of the bed, though.
Good luck!
Katy

By: Nikki

Nikki — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 00:39:00 +0000

Hi Katy, thanks for your reply!

The cabinets I am considering are wooden, each has two doors (opening at the middle front) and two drawers (above the doors). There are several available, the body is finished with black lacquer and each has a different painting incorporating flowers, birds and/or butterflies. The paintings are mostly orange, yellow and red, some black and some have a bit of green and gold in them.

Do you have a preferred incense for smudging if sage is not immediately available? I usually have sandalwood and nag champa on hand, would they be suitable?

By: katyallgeyer

katyallgeyer — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 16:19:37 +0000

Jennifer–I recommend you waft the smoke from the incense, no “rubbing”. I usually have a wonderful hand made sage smudger stick that is especially made for me by a shaman in northern california. I’ll be reordering them once I have enough orders for them. If you’d like to get on the list, let me know. They have other herbs in them, are very large to last a long time, and they come with instructions on space clearing the Feng Shui By Fishgirl way. There’s a photo on my blog somewhere i’m not sure which post now to direct you to but it would be an early one.
Best,
Katy

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 12:33:13 +0000

Thanks for your lengthy response. And your yearly island sabbatical sounds wonderful! How fortunate that you can manage a seachange every year.:) I will do your advice, rubbing the cupboards with incense (only because I have some in the house! but sage, I’ll have to buy some). Actually the only thing that’s rubbed on the cupboards are cup rings from the hot, sweet cups of tea that gets delivered to my bed every Sat. Sun morning while I read the paper We’ve never had a problem with the cupboards. I was interested in finding your opinion if it was a bad thing to have them in our bedroom but it seems ok. Keep your library card current so you can visit your library and keep blogging.
Jennifer

By: katyallgeyer

katyallgeyer — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 20:14:23 +0000

Well, Corine I finally got to review your photo. The good news is that you have matching lamps that give you some balance. But the bedside tables are mismatched with one dominating the other. I advise you to go out looking for a more substantial pair of tables for better visual harmony and see if your relationship doesn’t prosper even more. If you can’t find matching ones that go with your shabby chic style, get at least the same sized ones and paint them the same color.

By: katyallgeyer

katyallgeyer — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 18:25:09 +0000

Hi Nikki,
So sorry in delaying my response to your post–I’ve been traveling and still no internet connection in our summer place. Anyway, here’s my answer to your question and thank you for your patience:

Antiques often do carry emotional/psychic residue from the history of their past. This can be counteracted by cleansing the old energy away and imparting them with new positive energy.

In the case of antique Chinese cabinets you will want to use some strong incense or sage smudger and thoroughly “cleanse” them with the smoke. Waft it throughout the interior and exterior of the cabinet.

At the same time as you are smudging, you will set the intention —say it aloud!— that you are banishing all negative energy and residual chi from the previous owners, sending it back to The Creator. Do / say this 9 times…a good feng shui number. Then set intentions for what you want the cabinets to do for you now (IE: “I infuse these bedside cabinets with loving energy and good luck for me and my partner”–that would be a good intention). Again, repeat it 9 x.

Unless the antique cabinets were witness to a murder or suicide, that should be enough to clear their chi. You may find you need to repeat the procedure a few times a year to reinforce it unless you bring in a professional feng shui expert to do a complete blessing ceremony. But don’t be intimidated: you have the power to cleanse them yourself.

As to them having different paintings on them….you didn’t tell me what the two images were. I would need more info to see if the two images were conflicting or harmonious symbols.

Thanks for posting and let me know what you end up doing!